It comes down to prudence

Whose-side-are-you-on societies exercise the least self-restraint, they most emphasize fortitude relative to justice, and they least emphasize temperance and prudence in the conduct of their political systems, delivering those virtues to the tender mercies of violent encounter and trial by fire, not a little bit of mob rule along with the ecstacy that comes of it; building-and-sustaining-things-that-endure societies exercise considerably more self-restraint, they balance fortitude and justice against each other, and they pay due respect to the virtues of temperance and prudence where the violence is tempered and the truth subject to other criteria of validity beyond superiority in contest; beatific-dream-of-grace societies exercise the most self-restraint, they least emphasize fortitude relative to justice, and they most emphasize temperance and prudence in the conduct of their political systems where courtesy prevails over aggression and the truth is entirely the product of reason and consensus, along with not a little bit of self-delusion and fantasy. 

The political systems of whose-side-are-you-on societies are simple extensions of people's social networks and they relate to their leaders the way they relate to their friends and enemies – directly and personally; for building-and-sustaining-things-that-endure societies the political system is differentiated from the social system and so the engagement in the political processes is not so intense or taken personally; in the beatific-dream-of-grace societies the social networks tend to resemble the political system and indifference and alienation are rife is a society that borders on the vacuous and the prone to illusion, fantasy and surrealism. 

The fundamental dimension along which these style of social order organize themselves is according to the relative weight they place on the carnal (hormonal) vs the abstract (neural) ways of knowing. The society organized according to whose-side-are-you-on is the most carnal, the society organized according to the beatific-dream-of-grace is the most neural, and the society organized according to building-and-sustaining-things-that-endure is a mixture of the two. 

It all comes down to prudence and how you know things.